3. Helping Hand 

I think one of the biggest issues for people is that they can’t be truly honest with others and most importantly themselves. There are so many things that go on during our daily lives, and sometimes it’s hard to understand them all, so maybe that’s what makes it truly difficult to accept them and share them with others, but I wish that wasn’t the case. 

Obviously, you don’t have to share everything about yourself with others, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to sugarcoat yourself either. If someone likes you as a friend or as more than a friend, then that means they like everything about you, and they’re more than willing to uncover what you don’t like about yourself. They want to know what you’re feeling and how you see the world. And personally, if that’s not the case than I wouldn’t consider their motives pure. My feelings toward this subject have changed dramatically over the past year or so. 

For awhile, I believe that I was living with one eye closed – I didn’t want to see the darker parts of the world – and therefore I always saw the best in everyone and everything. 

Unfortunately, I was forced into opening that other eye and seeing the world for what it truly is – and at this moment I can only think of a phrase used by one of my favorite authors, John Green. He stated in The Fault in our Stars, that the world is not a wish granting factory, and I truly believe he is correct. 

Now, I won’t get into all of the terrible and awful things that go on in the world because we are all very well aware of what happens, but I will say that all it takes is just one of those things to change your perspective. And I promise you will never be the same. 

Whatever that occurrence is, it will either change you for the better or for the worse, maybe sometimes both. If it’s for the worse, then you’ll need as much support and understanding from those that I mentioned before. Yes, you will think that you don’t need help and that you don’t want it, but trust me you do need it. 

You’re going to need others – even if it’s just one person, that’s fine. You’ll need someone to hear you out and listen without being judgmental, someone to be a shoulder to cry on when you can’t hold in the tears any longer, and someone to hug you as long as you need it. If you’re anything like me, you’re going to cherish that hug for as long as it’s provided. 

All of these things will help you. They may not make everything better, but they will improve your health – emotional, physical, etc – just enough for you to think, ‘Maybe everything will be okay.’ 

Even if you don’t have the support of friends, you can always count on your family. But, in some cases, such as mine, your entire family is going through the same thing, so it’s difficult to breakdown in front of them. It’s so hard to feel as down as you do when they feel it just as much. 

It’s possible to go to them for help – I’m not saying you can’t – but sometimes you’re going to need at least one other person. You’ll need someone who isn’t suffering the same thing you are. 

And sometimes that can cause complications as well. Certain events can be hard for others to understand and therefore can jeopardize their sympathy. As I say this, I can tell it’s pretty contradicting to what I’ve been talking about, but that takes the whole thing to another level. 

If you can find that person who truly wants to uncover the darkest corner of your mind, who will listen and hold you when you’re at your weakest, and who will completely understand the situation at hand whether they’ve been through it or not – then all I can say is you better hold onto them. Hold them close and never let go of them because they’re a special breed and they’re very rare as well. 

So, all in all, I guess this was my way of venting a bit about something that I hold close to my heart. I know now how it feels to be shattered and broken, to think as though you can’t go on any longer, and how important it is not to be alone during these times. I also know that there are so many people who have gone through the same thing as me. 

I am not alone. I am not special. I am not the only person who has suffered a great loss. 

But I am here. I am still going no matter how hard it seems. I might not have all of the support I want, but I have my family and for now that is enough. 

It’s enough until I can find that one person who has the purest motives. The one who will show me all that I’ve never known. And until then, I’ll be carrying on, slowly but surely, until that one arrives. 

If you’ve felt the way that I have, no matter what you’ve gone through, and you feel alone – you are not! I promise you that you’re not alone. There are so many people willing to listen and help, and I am one of them. 

Just know that I’m here. I’ll be around to help if you need it.  

xoxo, 

Jules 

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